tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post2204609980267482156..comments2023-11-13T08:18:57.504+00:00Comments on Pipany & the Poltisko Memoirs.: Confidence again!Pipanyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04048984447721169350noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-14541922155857962522007-05-09T20:28:00.000+00:002007-05-09T20:28:00.000+00:00Me again - and in response to Toady, ,maybe the mo...Me again - and in response to Toady, ,maybe the most confident type of people are not the people who blog - maybe they are all out there conquering the playgroups while we are tentatively baring our souls on blogs! who knows.<BR/><BR/>Power - 'The capacity to act on your awareness with loving discernment. Utilize your resources to the fullest and create win-win experiences'<BR/><BR/>Well, considering what we have been discussing I think that is very appropriate for you at the moment. I will draw you another, so thinking about you and at 21.26 on 9/5 i drew.... you won't believe it, but I never lie about these cards.... 'Faith' - 'The unshakable knowing of the heart when nothing makes sense to the mind. Optimism is an expression of faith in action'.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes, Pipany.Faith https://www.blogger.com/profile/04672728248961388984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-41944813713995049472007-05-09T16:11:00.000+00:002007-05-09T16:11:00.000+00:00oh so feel for you. i am one of those people that...oh so feel for you. i am one of those people that hates social situations but am also conversely (because of my job) able to throw myself in with abandon. you'd look at me and think "oh she's ok, she can chat to anyone" and i can but I hate the situations when you feel you have to. am not saying this very well.<BR/><BR/>Suffice to say, keep with it. Or alternatively take a book, say hello to everyone and then go and sit in the corner. Or maybe not. Or just get in the car with the babe and come to my house, we'll put the girls in the playroom and you and i can sit in the kitchen and just gossip about the bloggers!DevonLifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10771725641771199612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-4628903279882370752007-05-09T15:46:00.000+00:002007-05-09T15:46:00.000+00:00When I read your blog and all the empathetic repli...When I read your blog and all the empathetic replies it makes me wonder where are all the chatty confident types, perhaps they're all putting it on. I'm just like you and tie myself up in knots when I don't know anybody very well. Don't think I'll grow out of it now, but being and old bag I'm not too bothered or bovverred.Toadytoadyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02890073795239873916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-31432245181101852482007-05-09T15:43:00.000+00:002007-05-09T15:43:00.000+00:00Here we are again - this wonderful blog site oozin...Here we are again - this wonderful blog site oozing warmth and love.<BR/>Me too. I never met a child until I was 7 - taught by a governess on my own. My Mother was terribly shy and hated parties or meeting others when she was young and "didn't want to put you through the same agony" My gosh, she succeeded putting me through much worse agony through all my life. I did not learn to socialise at the age when everyone else did. I had (and have) nothing to say to other people. There would be a lot of people who, if they read that, would say what a chatter box I am. Yes, with people I know well.<BR/>I am sure you and your 'commenters' have been in a room at any sort of party (or play group) and wondered what on earth they are all finding to talk about!<BR/>It is quite right that lots of them probably feel the same, but somehow that doesn't help.<BR/>The only thing is that as I have grown older, I have realised that the really bumptious people are often the really shy ones and that is their way of dealing with it.<BR/>As they have all said, well done you for seeing your wee one doesn't go down the same road. It doesn't really get much better, but we learn how to deal with it!<BR/>Love and a hug, RhoWithy Brookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00942644634616193902noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-56241518395692546162007-05-09T14:29:00.000+00:002007-05-09T14:29:00.000+00:00Poor Pipany-You have brought a tear to my eye-I am...Poor Pipany-You have brought a tear to my eye-I am such a hermit and so lacking in confidence at times-can relate to much of what you say. I have been there at that playgroup and really feel for you. Don't put yourself down, you are not the only one to feel this way my friend. And you should be proud of yourself-you are so brave to do something you quite clearly didn't feel comfortable with. I have turned around and not gone in the door before now out of fear and the creeping ivy of shyness up my neck...Your little one is very lucky to have you as her mummy.<BR/><BR/>BIG Hug from me<BR/>+ of course, warmest wishes<BR/>xxBluestocking Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01502764742097142372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-91763994598549126692007-05-09T13:48:00.000+00:002007-05-09T13:48:00.000+00:00I used to hate playgroup with a passion! Your blo...I used to hate playgroup with a passion! Your blog epitomises the way I used to feel about it but how interesting that we all felt the same way.Chris Stovellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03741359642268813093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-11196585228338260902007-05-09T13:43:00.000+00:002007-05-09T13:43:00.000+00:00Pipany, i too emphasise with you. I've very often ...Pipany, i too emphasise with you. I've very often felt 'out of it' for many reasons - too many to go into here - but some are the same as yours. Sounds like you are doing very well indeed - we all have down times. I will come back later with a bit for for the 'power' card and a new one for you today, but have to zoom off now cos dog groomer just called and my angel boy is ready for collection!Faith https://www.blogger.com/profile/04672728248961388984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-20917872429296729332007-05-09T12:27:00.000+00:002007-05-09T12:27:00.000+00:00I love that "Why the heck does it matter feeling" ...I love that "Why the heck does it matter feeling" I got when I reached 50 and by the way I think Whale of a Times is as follows:<BR/><BR/>The blue whale being the biggest creature on earth, a "whale of" anything is "a large amount of" it. As well as "whale of a time" people used to say "a whale of a lot" and "a whale of a job". It's US slang from around 1910.Blossomcottagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06341216100768538015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-61820057599408791152007-05-09T12:09:00.000+00:002007-05-09T12:09:00.000+00:00Pipany, I can definitely connect with much of what...Pipany, I can definitely connect with much of what you describe of then and now. Sometimes I find it hilarious that I should be spending so many hours now chatting mostly superficially with staff and customers in the shop. It is not what I consider the "true" me, but it is a me that I can deliver as needed. And, the best part is that sometimes the surface is an entryway to a deeper connection!<BR/>xoFranceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08352407314710067616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-77979243009019934252007-05-09T12:07:00.000+00:002007-05-09T12:07:00.000+00:00I am the fat half! I swear to God we share a perso...I am the fat half! I swear to God we share a personality, although I think I have teh fat half, perhasp we could time share, i could do the angst on toddler group days and you can have it on the days I have to do school meetings. I don't actaully think it gets easier as you get older, only as you get older you realsie that a lot of people feel like taht as well.<BR/><BR/>Chin up we are all out here falling over our own feet and thank you for describing life on the periphery it is how I feel my entire lie. Sometimes its good to know you are not alone!Un Peu Loufoquehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09387826515638192265noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-65890029877160289572007-05-09T10:59:00.000+00:002007-05-09T10:59:00.000+00:00As a child it never occured to me that adults coul...As a child it never occured to me that adults could get shy too, I thought it was something that miraculously disappeared when you grew up. I know better now! I always used to be very sociable, but weirdly I'm finding as I get older that I want to retreat more and more and only be with people who 'get' me or vice versa - I find small talk exhausting and can't chat nearly as well I used to be able to. Just think, if we ever meet up, we can ditch the small talk and get straight down to serious subjects! Good for you for going. What you need to remember (and I know, I never can either) is that many of those other people would have been feeling the same - it's like the affliction that dare not speak it's name! Those times that you feel 'outside the group' growing up haunt you forever.Suffolkmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15123007594112557168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3244996855788768839.post-87144092683720975852007-05-09T10:34:00.000+00:002007-05-09T10:34:00.000+00:00Oh Pipany I can so empathise with you. It does get...Oh Pipany I can so empathise with you. It does get better and then as you get older it seems less important to the point where it doesn't matter any more - well not all the time!Westerwitch/Headmistresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08956764463959607416noreply@blogger.com